So, today is my 27th birthday (happy birthday, self!!). The past few years have been some of the most powerful in my life. They have been full of high-highs and low-lows; when I feel an emotion, good or bad, I feel it hard...and let me tell you, my 27th year marks quite the journey of heavy, beautiful, compelling, confusing, magic and motivating feelings. I have worn a full 27 "dresses" of Trish. So what have they taught me?
I feel I've most deeply learned that we are responsible for creating a life of joy for ourselves; no one is going to just hand it to us. Real joy, I have learned, must start from within. Real love, I believe, is only sustainable when it starts with ourselves. Surround yourself with loving people, places, images, messages--yes. Build a community of support, comfort and adventure. But never neglect to wake up each morning and check in with that inner voice of yours. Never forget that he/she knows you better than anyone else and deserves your unconditional love. As I like to say in regards to my life, you have to be an active participant in your own happiness and success. You have to choose to *live* and not just exist. You have to choose to let go and flow.
I have also learned that our bodies and our stories are not separate from our minds--they are deeply connected. What you choose to think is exactly what will you manifest...in life, in love, in health and wealth. I fully understand that human nature often leads us down a Negative Nancy road. "Why me? Poor me..." syndrome is an epidemic. I have been known to suffer from this on many an occasion. It takes courage and strength to lift ourselves up by our boot straps and move forward. And as my favorite Buddhist teacher, Pema Chodron, says "Usually we think that brave people have no fear. The truth is that they are intimate with fear." There is so much in life we cannot control--let's just accept this now, shall we? But there is one thing we can always control--and that is our thoughts. I encourage you to be in what you are in, to feel your true feelings--avoiding them will never bring you to a lighter state. But always remember that you have the power to shift so much in your life simply by shifting your thoughts.
For me, the easiest way to start changing and shifting my life was to start being more grateful. I was blessed with the opportunity to begin blogging through my new job; a chance to actively document the ways in which the Universe has given me reason to be thankful. We live in an incredible digital world; encouragement, motivation, lessons can be easily found with just the click of a mouse. I highly suggest finding teachers who inspire you on a daily basis; who put you and your thoughts in check. It's far less easy to slip down that Negative Nancy road when you saturate your world with positive influences, words, messages. I also highly suggest taking inventory of your daily gratitude; start a journal, make a vision board, say "thank you!" often with enthusiasm and love. For my own life, this practice has reaped even more love and blessings to be grateful for.
There will probably be folks in your life who will question this holistic kind of approach to living--and that's OK. Let them doubt you. We are all doing the best we can with what we know in the moment. Their disbelief is most often a projection of their own insecurities and in no way a reflection on the powerful being you are becoming. Be a teacher to them through the good you manifest in your life; be living proof of what love, gratitude and kindness can do. This is a journey that has the potential to move mountains. This is a journey that can take you to a beautiful place of balance between being true to your feelings and being willing to change--don't waste another moment doubting that you, just as you are, is enough. You got that? You. Are. Enough. You are worthy. You are loving and lovable. You are enough.
I've said it before but I'll say it again; There is no script to life. Only love, in it's many, many forms, will get you to a happy ending. Practicing gratitude is a powerful form of loving; it can humble us, fill us and open the doors for good beyond our imaginations.
So, sweet readers, what are you thankful for today?
Sending you all love and light as I wear my 27th dress--one of deep gratitude--the one most fitting to just little ol' me :)