My brother, sisters and I were fortunate to have very active grandparents in our lives. My mom’s parents lived but 200 yards from our house and were an active part of our everyday lives. Today marks 4 years since the passing of my grandfather and there is not a day that I don’t think about them both. Often times, the loss of Mom-Mom and Pop-Pop feels fresh, always causing tears to flood my eyes, simply because there are so many life moments I wish they were still here to experience and share with my family and me.
Because they lived so close to us, our lives intertwined in a beautiful, everyday kind of way. One that I watch today with the BF’s family and it makes my heart swell to see his parents share the same love with his nephews I once did with my grandparents. Some of my fondest memories occurred in their home and they were little moments, that would probably mean nothing to anyone else. School project help (my grandmother was very crafty), summer night chats as my friends and I cut through their backyard on our bikes, and when I moved away to college, Sunday afternoon phone chats to catch up on the week and share the news from Happy Valley.
I feel fortunate to carry their memories with me everyday. My family adopted their sweet and feisty Westie after they passed, and her unconditional love is like an extension of them with our family every day.
So what’s the message? Enjoy your grandparents while they are with you. Sit and listen to their stories (even if you’ve heard it 85 times before), ask them for their recipes so you can continue to enjoy them and pass them on. Grandparents are the windows to our past.
“What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies.” ~ Rudolph Giuliani